End-of-Life Resource

We know how difficult it can be when it gets closer to the time to say goodbye to loved ones. To make life just a little easier, we’ve compiled helpful resources you may need in the days, weeks, months or years ahead. From how to have difficult conversations about loss to practical health questions, you’ll find links below to people, places, and organizations that can help. 


Below you’ll find resources for:

If it’s too early, we recommend that you bookmark the page or download a copy of the checklist for later. 

Joseph A Lucchese has worked with grieving families in the Bronx for years and knows that planning is not easy, but necessary.

Having Difficult Conversations & Emotional Support Resources

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Spending time with those you love is the greatest joy in life. Even the most difficult conversations can bring joy. You can take time to remember the good times, while also planning ahead. Even though it can feel overwhelming, having these conversations towards the end of life is important and necessary. 

There are many resources that can help you start with difficult conversations. We recommend keeping these three main pillars in mind:

  • Show Respect & Engage Completely
  • Take the Time You Need
  • Put a Plan into Writing

Remember that you don’t need to do this alone. Below you’ll find a list of online resources and organizations that can help.

Important Health Care Decisions


Aging is a part of life and with it comes complex health problems. Making decisions about your health, your spouse's health, or a parent’s health can seem overwhelming. These are decisions that only you and your loved ones can make, but there are resources available to make this easier. 

While there is no one-size-fits-all approach, we do recommend a simple process of:

  • Speaking with Professionals
  • Seeking Advice from Family & Friends
  • Taking Your Time When Making Final Decisions

Below you’ll find links to resources that help with specific questions about end-of-life health needs that we’ve found helpful:

Advance Directives

Choosing a Healthcare Proxy

Organ/Tissue Donor Designation

HIPAA waiver of authorization

General Health Resources: 

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Whether you’re making plans for yourself or a loved one, you’ll want to ensure that you have all the necessary documentation easily available. This includes personal records, financial records, wills & trusts, and other documents. Making the necessary plans and arrangements in advance can help prevent future problems for those you love. 

A great start is to gathering simple details like:

  • Social Security Numbers,
  • Employers & Dates of Employment,
  • Education & Military Records,
  • Financial Documentation,
  • Life Insurance Policies,
  • Medications, Etc.

You can find a full list of items in the resources below. Remember, you don’t have to do this all alone. In addition to the resources listed below, there are professionals that can help. Ask a healthcare provider, financial advisor, or loved one for assistance.

Personal Records

Financial Records

Wills & Trusts

Power of Attorney

Domestic Partnership Agreement

Estate Planning Support

Funeral Arrangments & Pre-Planning


Talking through funeral plans and pre-planning the service can be a positive experience. It can be a way to connect with loved ones and talk through what is most important. The process of planning or pre-planning a funeral is not something you need to do alone. There are professional resources to help you with the process.

We recommend you start by:

  • Talking about the goals of your service.
  • Speaking with experienced funeral directors.
  • Seeking advice from loved ones.

 Below you’ll find resources that families have found helpful during this process.

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